If you’re in pain right now because of your breakup then I honestly weep for you. I know how awful it can be to not only be rejected by the one you love so much but also to feel so helpless to do anything about it. The torment and pain in your heart and your soul touches everything in your life and you feel like a captive in its embrace and you wish you knew what to do to relieve some of that pain. How can you get back to feeling at least somewhat normal? How can you regain hope that you will be able to get your ex back?
Even if you feel that moving on and finding someone else might be easier for you right now, if you still love your ex and you want to get back together then I highly recommend that you keep an open mind. If true joy is found in their arms and you feel like they are the one for you then don’t give up on that dream. Never give up on love and understand that love doesn’t come into your life every day. Trying to overcome the pain by replacing your ex is just going to lead to more pain and disappointment.
There will be times when you are going to have bad days. You’ll have days when you will feel like leaving work and crawling up in a ball on the couch but you’ll also have good days eventually. There will be a day when you start to see progress and mysterious things will happen in your life as your ex starts to come back to you. The challenge is getting through those difficult days and working through the pain and emotions. There will be days when you’re going to feel like you’re on the edge of tears. So, what can you do during those trying times to get through the day?
If you are having a really tough time, find some place to be alone. Go into the bathroom at work or to your car or into your bedroom, if you are at home. Cry if you need to and then take a deep breath. Feel the emotions that you are having and name them. These emotions are a part of you at the moment and they are a warning sign from your body. These emotions tell us that something isn’t right and that we need to change something. On the other hand, we are in turmoil because we want to avoid the pain that might be coming our way in a given situation. To get past that pain and give us some relief from the turmoil we need to think positive thoughts and associate these thoughts with the situation at hand.
It’s very easy for all of us to start thinking negative. For most of us, this is just how we are wired. You might naturally start doubting that you and your ex will ever get back together because there is so much pain involved with getting your ex back. Your ex might reject you or it might take longer than you might like for them to come to the realization that they really do love you. You might fear that they will start seeing someone else and every day is spent in anticipation of that pain that is heading your way. But you can overcome that pain by looking at the big picture. You might look to the past and remember what it felt like to be with your ex. You might look to the future and feel in your heart that nothing is impossible and that in time you can win your ex over. If you can simply deal with the problems and obstacles as they come along while knowing that someday in the future you will get your ex back then you will bring that dream into your reality.
You will have bad days and you’ll have good days in your journey to winning him back. Try not to let these bad days take control of your life and try to remain positive and optimistic. Allow yourself to dream. It won’t cost you a thing. Look at pictures of you and your ex together and remember how it felt to be in love. Know in your heart that you can and will get him back if you are patient with yourself and you steadily move forward in your quest to win the heart of the man that you adore. It’s only a matter of time and there will come a day when you have that opportunity again. Live your life as if that day could be today and be constantly watchful for signs that your ex is falling in love with you again when you see him again.